Therapy is usually believed to be only for people who are ‘crazy’ or have a mental disorder or a problem. Others see therapy as a last resort for a problem or situation. And many others see therapy as a waste of time. Luckily, none of these things are true.
Therapy is usually a space where a person with a mental disorder comes in to get treatment. Much like a sick person going to see a doctor. However, therapy is also useful in situations where people find an impasse in their lives and need a non-judgmental third-party to help them detangle and understand their current situation. Examples of this are family therapy, people who go through a particularly hard breakup, and others. Therapy is also specialized in such areas as couples therapy and grief therapy where people explore specific problems in their lives. Therapy in itself offers a safe space for a person to explore different aspects of their lives, identity and future with a trained professional that helps them make meaning and find guidance.
Why got to a therapist when you can talk to your friend/ mom/ significant other/etc.? Therapists are a non-judgmental third-party. Their aim is to help you, help yourself and find yourself. Your mom/friend/S.O. on the other hand are biased, even if its positive, and will try to lead you towards what they think is best for you according to them. A therapist does the opposite; they work to help you uncover what you want and what is the healthiest way to get it. Therapists also teach you coping skills, they help modify unhealthy behaviors, as well as offer resources that are helpful for your development.
Even though therapy is great, not all therapists will be a good fit for you. Each therapist has a specialization and a modus operandi. It is important that you feel safe, cared for and heard when you are with your therapist. So, don’t be afraid to say to your therapist that it’s not working out for you. Don’t be afraid to look for other options and try alternative therapy forms (expressive arts, music therapists, drama therapists, etc.). We are all different and we all need different levels of care.
Go find the therapy and therapist that works best for you, even if it means trying a hundred times. Remember, never give up on the recovery process because the first time did not go well. You deserve to get better. You deserve to feel better. And you deserve to be happy.